If you stopped daydreaming about what you would do when you grew up, the way you did as a child, then you have done yourself a great injustice. It isn’t just about what you would do, it’s also about what you would have, who you would spend time with, and who you would be. There isn’t anything today that you cannot do, have, or be, if you could imagine it as you used to when you were a child. Explore, decide what you want, ponder, imagine, and expect to get it.
To ponder an idea of what it is that you want to do, be, or have, it all follows the same perceptual system. Let’s use an example that is easy to follow. Pick an item that you wish to have _________. It can be anything. Using one item will simplify things. Just fill in the blank with any item you wish.
When you make the decision of what you want to do, be, or have, you are actually creating the experience. You have the intent, and you have a belief that goes hand in hand with it. You think about what you believe (or expect) the experience will be like, and it’s outcome. If you can make yourself believe that you already have it by pretending, and believing that you do, more than feeling that you don’t, then you will have it.
This is how…
If you can remember the picking and choosing process from when you were a small child things will go smoother for you. If not, and you are all grown up, just follow the instructions.
- Ask for it.
- Decide to have it and believe you can, therefore expect it to come.
- Imagine, ponder and daydream. Feel these as though it were already happening. Make it real by smelling the smells, tasting the tastes, etc… If you are pondering a new car for example don’t forget that new car smell. Put your hands on the wheel and feel that new car. Use your imaginary senses whenever possible. Do this often, very often, if it feels good to do it. Make it something that you think of a lot. Be easy about it, don’t try to make it happen. Just play.
- Pay attention to what comes your way. Things and people will come your way that confirm what want you way is getting closer to you.
- Be careful what you ask for, or what you think you want.
If you follow the instructions above, and what you want still hasn’t come, there are reasons beyond pure childhood desire that are interrupting the flow. Let’s use the example of a new car. You have followed the above instructions, and are excited about your new car. If it hasn’t come yet ask yourself this; have you had thoughts of where the money is going to come from, when it’s going to come, how much the insurance will be for it, etc., all of those thoughts take away from the pure thought of want. These thoughts, though keeping your car away are not bad, they bring clarity. Depending on the car type, you may want the freedom from the responsibility of the car, more than you want the actual car.
There are many things that you want, that you don’t know that you want. You have asked without knowing that you have asked. You don’t ask with your words, you ask with your thoughts, and your emotions. The saying that your worst fear will be realized is no joke. Your emotions prioritize your thoughts, and tell you how you are doing as far as an experience forming is concerned. If you think a thought and it makes you feel negative in any way, even if you get the item, it won’t turn out in a way that is favourable to you. Depending on the type of feeling you may not even get the item. If you think of an item and it makes you feel good, then that’s what you are looking for, IF you can leave it in a pure childlike form of expectation.
There are a lot of things that you pay attention to, or think about, and many emotions associated with them, collectively this is your emotional mix. You can tell how you are doing with your emotional mix when you look at your general daily moods. If you are generally in a negative mood then examine the items in your day that you care about. Include work, family, friends, situations that may have come up, etc., and if it makes you feel bad to think about them nudge them into a better emotional place. If you can’t put them into a positive light at least get them to a place that is neutral, or a place that’s somewhat better. Increasing these items one by one to a more positive emotional place increases your overall mood in a positive way. Once you are there it is easier to follow the above instructions successfully, in a light hearted, playful, childlike way. The only intent you need is to daydream, and enjoy it, expect it to happen, and it will.
In a light hearted, easy, childlike way. dream it into being and watch it become. The joy is in the journey…
Don’t take it on faith, start with something small like a great parking spot in the lot at the market, or finding a cup or item that you have been looking for. Start small, when you are confident that you “know” that you are doing it, add more. It really doesn’t matter what you want to do, be or have, not one thing is any more difficult than another. It will give you some confidence however to start with something that you believe is not “that” hard to get, or small by your own standards. Be specific about what you are asking for, for instance if it’s a cup, make it one with flowers on it with different colour petals. That type of specific.
All these things that you think you want to create, are actually creating you. You can change them up, but in the end you are the one that is being changed by it, and that never stops.
If you would like more information on focussing or attention feel free to explore my blogs on those subjects. I hope you find this and the other information on the website helpful. If you found this article interesting please like and share at the bottom of the page. It was as always a joy to write.
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